Hey guys, it's Hanna again.
I explained yesterday in invade my privacy tag that I don't believe in love. That's why I asked my dear friend Ali to talk about her thoughts about love and here are a few of her answers. Oh and a link to Invade my privacy tag and Ali's blog will be at the end of today's tip.
01. What is love?
Love is a feeling. You get that feeling when you build a strong emotional bond between you and another person or a subject. Love does not always go both ways. What I'm trying to say is that if you love someone, that doesn't mean that they are going to love you back. You can't force anyone to love you and you can't force yourself to love someone either. In case you love someone that doesn't love you back, the only thing you can do is be yourself and maybe that person will start falling for you.
02. How do you know that you are in love?
Like I said, love is a feeling. So when you are in love, you should feel different than you felt before. If you are in love with someone, that might be because you feel safe around them, they make you happy, they put a smile on your face or whichever other reason. In case you are in love with a subject (like a book), you will probably read it over and over again and start obsessing over it. Of course you could also obsess over a human being.
03. What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?
There is a huge difference between these two. You love someone like your parents, friends and pets. You could even love a stranger. Being is love is a completely other thing. It would be very very weird, if you were in love with your pets for example, because that would mean that you think of them in 'more than a friend' way. So DO tell your friends that you love them, but DON'T say that you are in love with them!
04. What does being in love feel like?
It's all rainbows and butterflies and cotton candy... NO!! Being in love can be a lot of work and is not always easy, but that doesn't mean that is's not worth it. Like they say: nothing that comes easy is worth having. They also say: easy come, easy go. I believe in that 100%. So work for it!
But there are also times that love is easy and not at all complicated.
05. Why is it called 'falling' in love?
Probably because it would hurt less if you fell of a 50 story building when the other person doesn't feel the same way about you. No but seriously, it is just a metaphor and I have no idea who came up with it and how.
06. Can you fall out of love?
Yes. Falling in love is just as easy as falling out of it. I say again that love is just a feeling and feelings come and go. So I believe that if you don't work hard to stay in love, you will just fall out of it. When falling out of love with a person who is still in love with you, you can hurt their feelings, so be careful - you don't want to be a heart breaker.
07. Can we love more than one person at a time?
Is that even a question? Of course you can love more than one person at a time! I love a lot more than one person right now. I love all my friends and my family and so should you!! And yes, you can also be in love with more just than one person at a time. It is all about how that person makes you feel and more people can make you feel the same way. And there in no rule that tells you how you are supposed to feel.
08. Can we expect someone to love us, if we don't even love ourselves?
Well I always say that you have to love yourself first. You can't love others, if you can't love yourself. And others won't love you, if you don't love yourself. Just love yourself. I can't stress this enough: LOVE YOURSELF!!!!
And if you don't love yourself yet, figure out the thing that you don't like about yourself and try to change them.
09. Does love even exist?
Again I repeat that love is a feeling and everyone feels it differently. The way you imagine love can be and probably is completely different than someone else imagines it. So only you can answer this question for yourself. I think that love does exist. What do you think?
10. Is love easily replaceable?
NO!! It is not easy to replace! Take a friend for example - if you loose a friend that you loved, it should not be easy for you to just move on to another person. And in my opinion, it is even harder to replace a person who you were in love with.
There are a few more tips about love on her blog, go go check them out!
Invade My Privacy Tag: http://www.polyvore.com/invade_my_privacy_tag/set?id=130691053
Ali's blog: http://tipsandthoughtsbyali.blogspot.com/
xoxo
-Hanna
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