Hey guys, it' Hanna here again.
This is the fourth and last set in the "How to be a social butterfly" collection. Hope you liked and enjoyed reading it!
εїз Have good hygiene. This is good advice for everyone. Even hermits. If you want to feel your best and look your best, it's important to shower, brush your teeth, wear deodorant, blah, blah, blah. People tend to judge a book by its cover -- so don't start off on the wrong foot by stinking up the room with yours.
εїз Don't adhere to a label. We humans want the simplest way to size up everything we see. Unfortunately, because of that, a lot of judging happens. If you walk into a high school wearing all black, too much eyeliner, and carrying around a backpack that says, "I Pray to Hell", you might not make it onto the cheer squad. So to fit in with every group, wherever you are, don't subscribe to a label. It's the only way to fit in with everyone.
εїз The most obvious way to do this is with your clothes. Have your own style. Don't avoid trends, but don't actively seek them out. And when it comes to your actions, do a little of everything! Be the blonde that heads the environmental club, plays volleyball, and still makes time to practice her french horn. Why not?
εїз Put effort into your appearance. In case no one has told you, life is generally easier for pretty people. It's another of the same: humans want a quick way to judge things, and being pretty is equivalent to being good. It's not right, but it's kind of how it is. Since it probably won't change anytime soon, to be accepted more easily, putting effort into your appearance will take you a long way.
εїз This doesn't mean dolling yourself up to the nines. It means wearing clothes that are ironed, sort of match, doing your hair, and maybe throwing on some chapstick. The nines are appropriate once in a while, but fives and sixes will get you through the day to day.
εїз Give the right impression. Try as Oscar the Grouch might, he probably won't make a ton of friends and be accepted in the majority of circles. He's just so negative. Be the person you want people to see! Be open, communicative, and fun to be around. When you're received well, it's a lot easier to keep going.
εїз The simplest thing you can do is make yourself approachable. Put your phone down, for goodness sake! Look up and around your world. Uncross your arms and look engaged in the moment. How else will people come in and out?
And here are a few more tips for you guys:
εїз Don't worry about what other people think of you. As long as you love yourself, and have friends that think the same, you'll be okay.
εїз People like it when you are a little zany. Don't be too shy.
εїз Keep in touch with friends. Having too many can be hard, and some people will feel ignored.
εїз Be yourself when flirting, and don't flirt with people you don't like just to show off to your friends.
εїз If people disrespect you, tell them off respectfully but firmly.
εїз Being too social may make some people think you're fake. After all, no one likes everyone.
And that is all.
xoxo
-Hanna
No comments:
Post a Comment