Hey guys, it's Hanna.
I like to party and I am not ashamed to admit it. I guess that you could call me a party girl! Here are a few tips on how to be one.
Party girls just want to have fun. Yet they also don't want stalkers or creepy perverts chasing them around either. Just how do you find the perfect balance between shaking your booty and keeping your dignity as a fun-loving, sunshine-sharing party girl? It's possible––just remember that your dignity needs to be your number one priority, then you can add in plenty of fun.
♀ Find your confidence. A party girl will enjoy partying most when she's self-confident and happy with how she comes across to other people. This does not mean that you need to be America's next top model by a long shot. It does mean that you need to groom well, dress in sympathy with the assets you have got without degrading yourself and knowing how to remain poised and assertive in all your interactions with others. Think that's hard? it's not––confidence is a learned skill.
♀ ind the right party. A fun-loving party girl will be discriminating about which parties she chooses to go to. Not all of them are ideal occasions for enjoying yourself and it's recommended that you avoid those dependent on drugs for their purpose, are nothing but drink-fests or those that contain a disproportionate amount of ex-friends and exes. And definitely avoid anything that has a reputation for ending up every time in a brawl.
♀ Arrive fashionably late: ten to twenty minutes or so is ideal, so that you interrupt those already gathered and cause them to look, without being so late that everyone is too invested in their own conversations and dancing.
♀ Learn how to introduce yourself properly and how to greet people. People want to be made to feel special, and good introduction skills are the best place to start working on this. Always show people you're listening attentively to them, use their name frequently to show you value them as an equal and remember the small details to ask them about next time you meet. They'll be lapping you up.
♀ Become accomplished at small talk. A party is definitely not just about turning up. It's about interacting with people and keeping the social conversation wheels well lubricated. If you're good at this, you'll win over the party attendees every time.
♀ Know how to hold your booze. A social drink is fine; a social drunk is not. Being a party girl is not, contrary to airhead advice, about slamming down drinks and thinking you're funny. Not only are hangovers not pretty, a drunk party girl is embarrassing and memorable for all the wrong reasons. It's the least classy way to be a party girl and the sooner you realize this, the better for your enjoyment. And remember, everyone has a camera these days––and they use them. Make sure the shots they get are all worthy.
♀ Network. Make yourself the indispensable go-to girl for news, information, shared friends and help. Exchange numbers and business cards. Love all the people you connect with in equal abundance but only get close to those you know you can trust and who mean something special to you.
♀ Be kind to the bartenders, party/event hosts and others in charge. Not only will these people be responsible for preparing your fancy mocktails and letting you into the venue, they'll be good allies in helping you meet more people and stay in touch with the "people who matter."
♀ Avoid getting intimately involved with a string of anybodies. Anybody can have anybody. You're not anybody and nobody should be left in doubt about your virtues. Be socially available and friendly with everyone without being intimately available. Here are some rules for the image-aware party girl:
01. Do not ever make out with friends' dates. Neither funny nor forgiveable.
02. Avoid the bad boys. They will ruin your party girl status in the blink of an eye. You have the party girl status because you're untouchable, elusive and cool. Stay in charge.
03. Never get drunk to build up the courage to find someone. Your drunk self has extremely poor taste and isn't likely to be caring about your personal safety or dignity.
04. If you already have a boyfriend, don't ruin things by making out with someone else. Party girls do go steady, so be proud that you've found someone special and stay faithful. Remember the cameras... they're everywhere.
♀ Dance. If you can't dance, watch the others and copy them. You'll get the hang of it soon enough. Just let the music move you and keep your movements minimal until you feel more confident. If you're already a great dancer, weave lots of dancing into your party nights out. Dancing is liberating, energizing and a good excuse to work around the floor and connect with many people. And dance with your girlfriends, men friends, whoever seems like they could do with a dance; don't restrict yourself. When the slow dances come on later in the night, politely excuse yourself unless you've really met that someone special; you don't want to give anyone of either gender the wrong idea.
♀ Leave with grace so that everyone feels special and sense the loss when you've gone. Be sure to say goodbye to everyone you've spent time with and for your new party contacts, exchange details before heading off. Mention little details about people you've just met, so that they know you really took an interest in them individually; they'll remember that.
♀ Head home. Don't overdo the partying. A party girl needs her beauty sleep to be refreshed for the rest of her life––and the next party. As with all good things, they come to end and part of the trick of being a successful party girl is knowing when to call it quits and find rejuvenation time. There will always be another party but it's a lot harder to get rid of the dark circles from under your eyes and wrinkles brought about by sleep deprivation and pushing your body too hard. Besides, always leave people wanting more; that touch of mystery that lingers once you're gone is good for them.
And that's it. Hope you like it.
xoxo
-Hanna